Since the beginning of time, homosexuals have been
trendsetters and trailblazers. One out of five great names in history belongs
to someone who was inclined toward their own sex. Then why do we insist on
imitate a ceremony that is inherent to people who despise us?
We need to find a different way to express our jubilation for
being able to tie the knot and have legal rights. The imitation of something
heterosexuals consider their God given gift is what repulses them toward the
idea of homosexuals having equal legal rights.
Speaking with someone that is very dear to me, I realized
that the problem is not the legal issue, but the concept of marriage. In
everyday people’s mind the ceremony and the law go hand in hand; thus, the word
‘marriage’ brings this whole vision of a clergy person invoking supernatural
deities to seal a pact between a man and a woman. A pact, many happily use to wipe their behinds by marrying and divorcing and marrying and divorcing ad nauseam. But that's okay: it's a man and a woman doing it...
Handfasting ceremonies exist since the beginning of time,
and in more than one culture they were (and are) independent of gender. The concept of
marriage come from a time when women were property moving from fathers to
husbands in a binding contract which sole purpose was to keep assets within
range, and rarely based on love. Troubadours and poets inculcated this romantic
notion of a love marriage in the collective mind of the people as a gateway
from the daily frustrations of the rough life of the Middle Ages. Some would
say that this concept existed in Ancient times and put Rome and Greece as
examples, but I will simply remind these hecklers that the Roman and Greek gods
had both male and female lovers thus their believers would take their cue from
them.
Some would say the Bible narrates how God created Adam
and Eve, not Adam and Adam (or Steve, Evan, or whatever male name you think
rhymes better), but in that moment, if we chose to take it literally, the idea
was procreation not commitment. You need different parts to create life; that
is Biology 101. However, I think that
is the weakest reason (or the oldest and more cliché if you may) because
nowadays (an actually always) people procreate without marrying one another,
and sterile people get marry knowing that they will not bear children.
And t(h)rust me, it’s not that I don’t believe in a Supreme
Being beyond us that created all. I do believe. My problem is with US humans
thinking that WE have the absolute truth. Because this same people who believe
in the God of the Bible and swear that Creation is perfect and all humans are
created in his (?) own image want to
say that some humans are less perfect than others because of their sexuality.
If you want to use something as a manual, you don’t get to
use only the parts that are more convenient to your agenda. It should be all or
nothing. This same book from where they base all their rightful anger toward a
different sexuality is full of things that today are considered against the
law: killing, stealing, raping, slave-owning, and another myriad more. And I
know I’m going to get a lot of trolling for this but I’m gonna write it anyway:
It’s like trying to use a manual for a VCR on an effing iPod.
We’re talking about the same people that believe their god
is paying attention to a football game to favor them. I mean, that is so
freakishly pagan they have no idea how stupid they sound. It’s the Athenians
all over again believing Athena would indulgence them over any other city
because she was their patron.
Once again, I don’t understand why we, the extraordinary gay
people, don’t find a different way to celebrate our (legal) unions. I get the blessing
of friends and family and blah blah. But I’m absolutely sure that if we stopped
the damn gay weddings for a year or two, the collective consciousness of our non-sexually-fabulous
fellow humans would change, favoring rights and not rites.
